Thursday, October 4, 2012

Adoption Update - Oct. 4, 2012

It is with a heavy heart that we share this news with you. We just found out this afternoon that "Little R" has an uncle in Uganda that wants to keep him. Amazing to me that Little R was in an orphanage for over a year and not one relative came forward to even visit him. And now, this man came out of the blue and said he will keep him. In his words, they will "manage". The uncle already has Little R in his custody and we are no longer able to adopt him. Don't get me wrong, I am totally for reunification with family IF they are able to provide the child with a good home. I've just seen too many cases in Uganda where children are tossed from family to family and they aren't given proper care. They are often times forced to work hard at an early age, are abused, or go hungry. I just pray that Little R doesn't become one of those cases.

I have never personally lost a child in the womb, but I can imagine what I'm feeling is somewhat similar to what a mother experiences when she looses her unborn child. You spend months thinking about your child and what life will be like once they are with your family. You dream about them and their future. You pray for them and that you will be good parents. And then one day, they are gone. Totally unexpected. It is at that moment that you realize that life's not fair. In fact, sometimes it stinks (as a nice way to put it). But then you get up off the floor, brush off your pants, and thank God for another day. You realize that even when times are tough, God has a perfect plan and we must trust in Him and His promises.

Would you please join our family in praying for this uncle? If he truly is supposed to care for Little R, please pray that he will be a good role model, teach him about Jesus, love on him and that he will be a good provider for his needs. And if he's not supposed to care for him, please pray that God impresses on his heart that there is a family that already loves him and wants to adopt him. Pray that he understands what a big responsibility it is to raise a child and if he can't step up then he needs to step down.

We are so very sad but I suppose situations like this are to be expected. I keep hearing stories of how hard adoption is and I believe it. But I also believe very strongly that we are called to adopt and God will get us through the tough times. We just need a little time to grieve but we aren't going to let this stop us. We will continue on with our adoption journey and follow God's leading. We appreciate your prayers - and especially for Little R, wherever he is.


  1. You know how my heart is sincerely grieving with you sweet friend!!! I know the plans He has for your family and R are good and right. His ways are not ours but they are always more beautiful than any plan we have. I am praying for you and that you will find refuge under His wings!

    love you!!!

  2. Christy, I am so sorry for your loss. I know how much it hurts to lose the one that you believe God has called you to parent. During our first adoption, the same thing happened to us. We struggled so much and believe now that God put little Caroline in our path so that we could pray for her. We moved ahead with another adoption and can't imagine our life without our precious Guatemalan princess. He has a plan, and He is faithful.
    Big hugs,

  3. I am so very sorry for what you are going through. I have never adopted, but I did have a still born baby boy. I know the pain of losing the future you had planned. Oh, man does it hurt. I am so very sorry. If there is anything I can do just let me know. The sun will rise tomorrow. The pain never goes away, you just get used to it. There does come a sweetness about the memory, but it takes a while. Let it just be a teachable moment for your family. Not like you have a choice. I am praying for you. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Give the girls a hug for me.
    Love, Monica

  4. Grieving with you and praying for "Little R", his uncle, and your precious family. Much love to your family from the Lowrys.

  5. I found your blog while trying to research adoption agencies to work with in Uganda. Do you happen to know which agency the Magera's use to do their international adoptions? No one has responded to my email.

  6. Thank you, friends! We appreciate so much your prayers and words of encouragement. We know God has better plans than we could ever make for ourselves.

    To the last "anonymous" person that just left a comment, I'm sorry, I do not know who the Magera's are.