Several years ago, I started having a longing in my heart to adopt from Uganda. However, I always heard you had to live there for three years, which was clearly not an option for us. But for some reason that longing would not go away. Then about six months ago, I heard that a relative of a family that goes to our church was adopting from Uganda and they did not have to live there for three years as I was previously told. This news got my heart pounding. I started looking more into it and discovered there are ways around that and that people from all over the United States were adopting from Uganda. I started looking into adoption agencies and found there are several that adopt out of Uganda. Then reality set in. I thought, "Could we really do this? At our age and this stage of life, could we really do this? How would our family take it? Would my friends think we were crazy? Could we afford it?" Question after question kept popping into my mind but when it came down to it, I truly believed God put that desire in my heart. And if God was calling us to adopt, He would guide our path. So I prayed about it. I prayed about it a lot. I really felt like it was what God wanted us to do so the next step was to bring it up to Steve.
So after a dinner date one evening about three months ago, I brought it up. I asked him, "So... I have a question for you. Have you ever considered adoption for our family?" To say that question took him back a bit is an understatement. His mouth just about dropped to the floor. Slowly, he said, "Nooooo." I went on to tell him about the longing I've had for so long and how I really felt like God wanted us to adopt. I asked him to just pray about it and if he didn't agree then I wouldn't bring it up again and would put closure to my crazy idea. Several days passed and he didn't say a word about it. I took that as a "no" and tried to put it out of my mind. Then one day, he spoke up and said, "I've been praying about the adoption and I think we should do it." I couldn't believe what my ears were hearing! I couldn't believe we were actually going to go through with it!
So there you have it - our big news! Crazy, huh?!?! We found an adoption agency to go through and sent in our preliminary application. That got accepted then we sent in the longer application last week. Then I heard from the agency first thing yesterday morning and that has also been accepted. Our next step is to do a home study that could take about 2-4 months. The entire process should take about one year and if things work out, we will probably travel to Uganda as a family to pick up our child. (The girls have always wanted to go to Uganda so they may actually get their chance!)
I knew it would be hard to keep it a secret from the girls much longer so Steve and I decided to tell the girls last night. Here's a couple of videos that share how it all went down...
So why Uganda when there are so many orphans in the United States? Well, mostly because we have a heart for orphans in Uganda and we feel we are called to adopt from there - but also because the need is so great. There are over 2 million orphans living in Uganda. There are many in the States, too, but there are also many couples that want to adopt here, as well. Why shouldn't kids in Africa, or anywhere else in the world, have the same chance to be brought into a loving family? What makes them any less worthy? They simply aren't. We were all made from the same Creator and we all deserve to have a loving mom and dad. Just as God adopted us into his family, we are all also called to care for orphans in some way. James 1:27 says, "Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world."
So here we go on a new adventure in life - not sure where it will take us and how many bumps we may encounter along the way. But I do know that God will walk us through it, though. Good thing because we couldn't do this without His help. If you think of us, we would so appreciate your prayers. Please pray for the following things...
1. Pray that doors remain open and that we follow God's leading
2. If it is God's will for the adoption to take place, please pray for the child we'll be matched up with - for their safety & good health, for healing from any emotional trauma they may have experienced, for them to be open to a new family, and for them to be accepting of our family, and even for the adjustment period after the adoption process takes place.
3. Please pray that the "bumps in the road" are minimal and that God gives us strength to carry on.
4. Please pray that finances will be "miraculously" provided
Thank you for your prayers and support! We'll keep this blog posted with new details as we have them and a few thoughts along the way. We welcome this next step in life with arms wide open ;-)
Hi I ran across your blog while researching about other people adopting from Uganda. My husband and I just received the news of our formal applications being approved through Night Light as well... Just thought we could stay in touch since we are with the same agency and almost on the same time line...
ReplyDeleteThat would be great, Mandy! I'm excited to follow your story, too! We just sent in the papers for our home study today. Looking forward to the next step of hurry and wait! ;-)
DeleteWow! Good for you! I am so excited for you and your family and a bit jealous. If my husband and I were a bit younger, I would love to adopt another child. And I agree with you. There are so many children around the world who need homes, the important thing is that you are listening to God and obeying Him to adopt one of the least of these, not from where you adopt.
ReplyDeleteI hope your process goes extra smooth and quick, although each step of the way I always had to remind myself, it's God's timing, not mine. God bless you and your family. I really believe that where there is an open heart to adoption and you are moving forward in faith, God's will is being done and He will provide the funds in His timing.
Thank you for your encouraging words, Lea! I have to remind myself often of God's timing. God will definitely have to work on my patience during this process!
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My God son was adopted. He came from Vietnam with 3 other little boys his age and we've kept in touch with the families. It has been astonishing to see how extremely well matched each boy has been to his family. Only God could have placed each of those boys in a home that was so uniquely suited to each of their personalities and needs. Totally a God-Thing. I know God has already chosen a child for you, and that child may not even be born yet but it is the perfect child for your family. What a blessing and What an amazing journey you are all undertaking. Thank you so much for sharing with all of us. --Kim Landrum
ReplyDeleteHi Kim! So good to hear from you! I didn't know you had a God son from Vietman. What a neat story! Take care & keep in touch! ;-)
DeleteSo extremely happy for you and your family. I watched the video of the girls and it brought me to tears of joy. May God bless all of you in this wonderful new journey.
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Susan Rice :)
Thank you, sweet friend!!! We're excited to see what God has in store for us! I have a feeling it's going to be a crazy ride! ;-)
DeleteI would love to have your email... or are you on Facebook so we could keep in touch through this journey because it is going to be a long one and it is so great that you are on the same timeline and with the same agency...
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DeleteHi there! Just found your blog on the internetz :) We have a fantastic group of Nightlight Uganda families on Facebook if you'd like to join us. If you're interested, send me a friend request and I'll hook you up. Or, you can shoot me an e-mail at awebbrausch@gmail.com. Many blessings as you begin your journey.
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